Applied Romance

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Regardless of one’s spiritual beliefs, the Bible is chock full of wisdom. Consider this little pearl from Deuteronomy 22:10 (King James):

Thou shalt not plow with an ox and an ass together.

This applies to any relationship requiring an investment of emotion or energy by two or more partners.
In any relationship, each partner brings value [...]

It’s that feeling when you get into an argument: you’re holding your own, temper under control, being a reasonable person, and that person says one of those things that just makes your blood boil, instantly!
You’ve been baited…
And you took the bait!
On the other hand, perhaps you’re having a polite disagreement with someone close [...]

Social opinion holds that men are logical and analytical, using facts and rational arguments to advance conversation using exchange of information. Emotional considerations are not held to be present, or if they are, they are held to be unseemly. Precision is esteemed of paramount importance.
But this is factual precision.
What of emotional precision?
Men [...]

Miscommunication is frame-control manipulation by one party assuming the right to dictate arbitrary and changing terms of communication at the expense of another party.
This can also called “he said, she said” where the “he” and “she” are absolutely independent of the actual gender of the participants.
The way miscommunication often plays out is that one party [...]

Here is a little secret I’ll share with you, one that doesn’t play well with almost anyone: disrespect rarely matters in modern dating, romance or business.
It truly doesn’t.
We have laws against dueling. Replying to assault (which can be verbal, difficult to prove) with battery (physical, much easier to prove) puts you [...]