Applied Romance

I know how it feels to be a hot chick. To be desirable.

Over the last year, I’ve been gotten more and more outright propositions from women. This is happening with increasing frequency. Several aspects of this are interesting.

One part of it is that I am not actually out prowling around. I’m just doing my thing: buying groceries, looking at plants at the nursery, shooting pool, whatever. I am naturally fairly gregarious, often banter with both men and women, and seem to be able to connect with anybody without too much trouble. But even when I am in some reverie, some analytical paradise in my head, toying with a sticky math or coding problem, I have been jolted out of my trance by women looking for my attention.

But I’m taken!

Another interesting part is that having a girlfriend I am happy with is… of no consequence at all. In a couple of cases, I’ve been told “I will make a good girlfriend!” Uh huh. Sure ya will sweetheart. The only men you’re attracted to are taken, and you are insanely jealous too, about having “your man” stolen by another woman. Tell me something I don’t know. I have even had a woman pick me up right in front of my girlfriend. She tossed down her business card with her cell number on the back. I gave it to my girlfriend later, we laughed about it.

One of the funniest parts of it is, women attempting to make me “work for it.” Boring. Like I am supposed to go to all this work to “date” them. I don’t think so. We both know pretty much what she really wants. Making it difficult for me isn’t going to provide any traction for her. All those other guys she has “working” for it, well, for some reason, none of them are boyfriend (or lover) material.

A woman in general has more (material) options than most men; an attractive woman has many more attractive options. But for some reason, when some women go from chased to chasing, their game just falls apart.

Her reality

Now, I can feel something about the reality for an attractive woman. So much bullshit. Guys making it so complicated. Not that a woman doesn’t like a challenge, but gents, make it an interesting and uncomplicated challenge. Let her know what you expect, allow her to deal with it. Or not. Whatever the case may be. But don’t line up the same old boring hoops like all the rest of the guys, trying to get her out on dinner dates and all that other courtship crap, when all you want is to get in her pants. If courtship is what she really craves, there’s a bazillion other guys out there willing to dump a big load of time/flowers/cash on her. And if you really are serious about courting her, she will feel it! In my experience, most women are very flattered, and won’t play games with your feelings provided you are honest with your intentions.