Applied Romance

Decisiveness is an attractive trait. People in general feel comfortable around men (and women) who know what they want and how to make it happen, and not as comfortable around wishy washy people that hem and haw. But few of us are always on point, and it feels good sometimes to just go with the flow, letting the onus of leadership (and the responsibility) fall on others shoulders.

We become indecisive.

There are several kinds of indecisiveness, each operating from a particular frame of reference, it pays for a man to know exactly which is operating and what the consequences are.

• Supplicative, being indecisive because you are worried about what other’s will think.
• Apathetic, when you really don’t care at all
• “Go with the flow,” when the crowd is moving in a sensible direction, don’t be a buzzkill.

Supplicative

Supplicative indecisive is when you subsume your actual desire in order to appease a woman, or to get something from her. If this occurs because you lack the balls to have an opinion, a desire or a point of view, you’re in a world of hurt with women, likely sooner than later.

Apathetic

Apathetic indecisiveness is when you truly don’t care. Black, white, whatever. This can be extremely useful in many ways.

1. If you truly don’t care, you can just say whatever comes to mind and go with it. Risk here is AB Indecision double bind from the woman.
2. You can use this to put her to work making you feel good.
3. Remember that in many cases, a woman that loves you wants to do things for you to make you both feel good. She wants you to tell her what will make you feel good. If you really don’t care, put her to making a surprise for you. This will engage her creativity.

Go with the flow

Sometimes, it nice for someone else to take charge. Especially in group situations where it’s someone else’s responsibility. This works with your woman, because you and her can enjoy just having fun and feeling good.

Use it wisely

Indecision is not knowing whether to decide or not. Deliberately not making a decision is a decision, and can be done from a very powerful frame. When taking responsibility for a decision induces material risk, or results from unwanted social pressure, or would result in an unwanted or unfulfilling leadership role, by all means, choose not to decide.